Michael - yes, we've both been doing a lot of reading and sharing of books. I think W's biggest issue is obsessing over the EA details, and needing constant assurances that I am not ready to give. I AM ready to give, and I DO give assurances around not repeating the EA- because at the end of the day this was the wrong way to deal with issues, and if need be, end the M. Having the affair was WRONG WRONG WRONG - i know this ethically and morally - but (and I only offer this sparingly because i understand some readers on this forum will have a hard time hearin this)- i do not regret or feel remorse to feel such love in my life - perhaps down the road I will come off this high (endorphin-related, according to many)- and determine that it was the worse kind of satanic temptation - a promise of happiness on this earth at the expense of hurting others, but for now it actually feels like Love. And I don't feel wrong for experiencing it.
saffie - thanks again for the insight.
I'm going to be off these boards for a while, but I really appreciate all of the insight and suggestions I've heard here. I wish all of you luck in finding and maintaining emotional stability and fulfillment in your lives.
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me-35 W34 D11,D8,S6 M12yrs EA 6/20-11/12/07 S 10/12-11/12/07 S2/7-present
