Husband, I bet you feel loads lighter -- still carrying quite a load -- but just to get that initial conversation done was a big one.
You know when the bomb dropped on me about my H's A, I can honestly say I hadn't had warm, fuzzy, intimate feelings for him in quite awhile. We were a million miles apart. I was even thinking that perhaps it was over between us. But the A made me really think about things and what I really wanted. We started talking, reconnecting, etc. A few weeks later I told him I still loved him. He was surprised to hear it.
You and your W are so far apart right now. She may think she has no feelings left right now but I don't believe it. I think she just has to find them. You have to reconnect.
I can agree with you and HFF that I didn't get a lot of counseling either. But I do think you'd get a lot out of Retrouvaille.
