Anyway I'm gonna need help in how I approach R talks with W, I've been waiting ages for it but it seems now that most of the things I'm feel like saying are only likely to start a fight. As forrest says I've still got too many "Whys" in my answers. Plus I know I'm still holding on to too much hurt, anger and hostility.
Over in Newcomers the advice was to unconditionally forgive ( just let go of the hurt and anger ) , but I'm not sure how to do that or how it works cos I still feel the pain of what has happened. Do I just say to W I forgive you. (then what ?) or do I just tell myself I've forgiven her. Do you have to feel forgiveness before you can give it (Cos I'm not feeling it yet) or is it just a bunch of words ? As I said in newcomers this is one part I'm not sure about.
