One thing to mention. We had a bit of a disagreement over the weekend and in an email (one of the previously mentioned) I discussed the OM. She responded to that point with her hopes that he chokes on his lies...
I was actually disturbed by this because as much as she says she has reached indifference regarding him, it is apparently not the case. So in another email I mentioned that as long as she has that anger and pain, she cannot be FULLY HERE. Her response to this, via email first and then verbally, was "you've done massive amounts of research, you know that anger is one of the phases. This is a good sign, it is progress."
I couldn't help but laugh. She's right. I am expecting too much too soon. She also recognizes that there IS a goal here - one that I am fairly confident we share.
Yes, it will take time for her feelings to fade and you'll need to excercies patience and understanding. It sounds like things have taken a turn for the better.
