Shades,
Just caught up here a bit.
I just want you to know that the bravado your STBX is exhibiting does not really show you what is happening in his mind.
He knows he is wrong.
He knows she is not a permanent part of his life.
TJ introduced OW about 3 weeks before we had our "talk" if we could live together harmoniously. She was getting the "we aren't working out talk" soon after.
She talked TJ into voicing to our kids " this is a serious relationship" last spring. Words right out of her mouth, as they were not TJ's.

Now I think TJ regrets all those convos, as they will be barriers to his relationship with the kids.
It is amazing to me how these convos that throw daggers at us and our children become burdens for them to bear in the near future.
We survive, they struggle.

Believe it.

Bomb 1/06
D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature.
Divorce final October 31, 2008.
OW looks like bad history. Over.
Still hopeful. Baby steps.
In R with my X.