I knew what I was doing when I mentioned my wedding ring to W but I guess I didn't get the sympathetic reaction I wanted. I could see by the look on W face that that part of the coversation wasn't recieved well . To be honest I actually wanted to say to W "Look I took my wedding ring off cos you were fking OM, and rubbing my nose in it" but that wouldn't have got me anywhere would it.
This morning I confirmed with W that we've never actually celebrated properly any of our wedding anniversaries, we went through the years together and concluded that was indeed the case. I said from now on we will have to make a conscious effort to celebrate this event, W agreed and said "yes it will have to be part of the healing process" (her words not mine).
I mentioned my wedding ring again and W's mood changed (seems like this is another big issue to her) she said she'll leave it to me to deal with that one. Then she tried to grab the moral high ground and said "Well at least I've never take my wedding ring off". I so wanted to reply with "Not even when you were fking OM and making a mockery of our marriage". Anyway I didn't, but it seems I've got a problem with my wedding ring cos I really don't want to put my old one back on. And I've got to stop some of these retaliatory thoughts coming into my head when W and I are talking R. I think that will come when it comes to forgiving cos I haven't fully grasped that issue yet.
PS I fully understand your previous thread so despite what I've just written I fully know what it is that I've got to do.
