MLC Walk Away Wife

[SirPrizeMe]

Tree, I love your attitude, man!! You will not only survive, you will thrive! Think of the strength you have gained in such a short time. Good on ya mate!

As for holding on after separation, or maybe worse.... Sure! You can hold on as long as you feel it's right. Separation is just a step. It's not the end. In some people's minds, finalization of divorce is only a step. you can DB through divorce. (I think there is a forum for that)

For me, I think finalization of divorce is most assuredly past the point. If she signs the papers, I will have let go. My situation has already "gone on long enough" if you know what I mean. The MLC childishness, selfishness, accusations, and so on. That has gotten old, yes it has. So I am separated, moving forward with financial separation. Moving forward on the practicals of divorce - new house, child custody and so on. Once we settle all that, if we settle all that, I will calmly accept divorce and I will dive into a new social life.

Who knows? Up until now, me wife has stepped back every time the heat got turned up. Every time the actual reality of divorce got closer, she stepped back. We were negotiating custody in email, when she sprung the Domestic Violence protection order on me. It is clear she feels very threatened by the consequences of divorce.

I guess what I am saying is, we cannot know, we do not know what the future will bring. You can only go with your heart. if your heart is done, then it is time to move on. Like Wise Gracie says.

I love this thought: We all deserve love and compannionship. We will all have it. Right now our choices have lead us to fight for these lost souls that we love. it sux esp not knowing how it all will end. I do know that in the end I will be cherished. So will you.

I know this is true for me. I did honestly cherish my wife, and when I told her so, before I found out about her cheating, she wouldn't believe me, couldn't accept it. That's ok. She doesn't accept my gift. I will find someone who will accept my love and return it. Maybe my wife. Maybe someone else. She's out there. Somewhere.

ps: Grace, your thread just locked.