I agree that the OM does not belong around D. I express months ago that I didn't want H's EA1 to have any part of our Ds' lives and he has respected that. Hopefully your W will get some brain cells firing long enough to do the same.
I don't think W has a clue at all - She took it as a direct attack on herself, and felt that I was trying to control her and her life.
Originally Posted By: lizzy
So you screwed up and brought it up at the wrong time. Your W will probably withdraw for awhile. Given her history, I don't think it will be for too long. Although she wants time to herself, I don't think she has it in her to take care of herself.
She is really hurting tonight - There was stuff on her mind before we started to talk tonight, particularly concerning losing D. We were talking about vacations, and she was concerned that I was going to 'run off' with D if I took her out of town on my own. At first I sort of laughed it off, but I could see that W was dead serious. I think she is feeling really, really unloved right now, and D is the only person that shows her love without putting pressure on her.
From a more practical perspective, her moods have REALLY been up and down lately - I'd say the last 4-6 weeks she has been all over the place. I asked her tonight if she had made an appointment with a psychiatrist, and she again took it as an attack. I've not seen her as out of control emotionally in a long time - Probably four months or so.
We'll see if she comes around again - We talked a little on IM earlier after I got home, but I'm just going to leave her alone for now. I don't think she has any capacity to deal with much anymore.
