Maybe instead of 'giving' her the freedom to do what she wants, why not just sit and talk with her to find out where she is (outside of her concerns about a job and finances). If she comes back with saying that she hasn't thought about the M because of other issues calmly tell her that since April of last year, that's ALL you've been able to think about. Explain your understanding of the importance of a job and a release of the financial burden but likewise you would like her to understand what is on your mind and what has been weighing on you.
I was thinking about this all afternoon and realized - you don't even necessarily have to know WHAT you want out of the convo. Sharing your confusion is good, too.
I need to take this advice myself.
Thinking about you, H! Hope the convo went/goes/is going well.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
