The irony is that as X was spreading falsehoods about my sister and her girlFRIEND, he had the audacity to say 'well, I just hope it doesn't break up two families'. Are you f'ing kidding me. WHat a tool.
Wow, he definitely wins the biggest dumbass ever award!!!!!!!!!!!!
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
All sorts of comments came to mind but Dana summed it up sooo well. So I'll take a slightly different angle:
Think for a second about where you are and how things are going for you in your life right now as opposed to even 12 months ago. Back then you didn't know how you were going to make it financially, you had house worries, all sorts of unknowns. And you have taken every single challenge and grabbed it by the horns. You have basically reinvented yourself. I know you know this, because you've thanked X and OW for opening that door for you - and you are absolutely right!
Now, as I see it your X acts like an inconsiderate a$$ more often than not and probably always will to some degree or another, whether he realizes it or not - it doesn't really matter. So, this crap will probably surface from time to time. But ya know what - if you keep doing what you're doing, and those around you (in this case your sis) do the same, then like Dana said it will all basically blow over. So the key is to not let it affect you because really - it isn't worth your time; it's like an annoying bug that buzzes around your head, not really a danger or causing you pain but simply annoying. And eventually bugs go away-
However there is always plan B - The Wrath of Julie...which is not a bad option either should you choose to exercise it...
You are doing FANTASTIC
Keep up the good work
Kev
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall." -Confucius
"God alone decides the contest; but we must put our shoulders to the wheel." -Adm. D.G. Farragut
Kevin-38; XW-36 M-2.5, together 4 Bomb-1/6/07; D-6/27/07
As a teacher, I understadn the frustration of having someone spread rumors about you... (last year I was hauled in because a kid said I practiced witchcraft and killed someone!!!!)
but someone said it best when they said that it is a reflection on him instead of your sister.
he is a tardmonkey and people see that
it's pretty sad when people don't understand strong women friendships...his OW probably doesn't have many women friends...she doesn't get it
too bad for her
and if your sister needs some voodoo hex spells...let me know
OMG - I can't believe your X actually said that. No it's not worth more of your time but what a jerk. Yes, people will see that it is NOT about your sis whatsoever.
It's getting somewhat spring-like here and I was realizing that last year around this time you were just starting to put together that awesome GWO / GAL trip to San Diego. Wow how things have changed for all of us. You are doing so great - I'm really happy for you.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
"Tardmonkey"...Webster called and said to thank you for the new entry....he was thinking about this: Tardmonkey: from the genus DivorcicusBustus, derivitive of "Fu@ktard", pertaining to one who has mangled his own life beyond recognition and now seeks to drag others down to his level"...
Whaddaya think? And besides, I'm dating Julie's sister so he's way off base! (and I know some people will NOT get the real HUMOR/IRONY in that, but, Jules, let's you and I enjoy it, shall we?)
I have a shovel and I'm not afraid to use it. Stubby
Where have you been sweetie? I sure hope that things are going well for you!
Julius,
What can I say? Twisted and heartless just don't do him justice. He needs to be called on this before it goes any further & sorry to say but I think that job will have to fall to you, unless you decide to let your sister in on it.
On the one hand, Julie: kind, generous, successful, centered, strong woman. On the other hand, XH: mean-spirited, lacking in confidence, follower, cheat, coward.
Who is the winner here? They will be seen for what they are. People who are like them will giggle and snicker, but the rest of you--most of you--will roll your eyes and wonder if XH and OW are ever going to mature past high school.
You're awesome, and that's all that matters. You can't control what anyone else does, says, or thinks; all you can control is you. You just keep on blazing your bright, happy trail!
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
