Hi T...wow, so many muffins! You are speading muffins around the world.
Sorry not posted on your thread a while, sounds like yuo are coping with some stages of detaching well though and you really know how to GAL! I'm not surprised your BF seemed depressed around the bomb..he was going through his SR and that can cause depression, very much so, Saturn can be a very heavy, depressing planet, or at least, can make you feel sad and tired.
I would say I will give the muffins a go, but I dont bake! I mainly make curries :-)
H & I, both 32, together since 18. *M 7/03, A since 9/06. Bomb 7/07, H ended it w/ OW 9/08 * Agreed to D 6/09...very hard *D 8/10 * At peace, have become great friends w/ X-H and his new GF
-went to see get dinner at a new restaurant with a good cello friend. It was super delicious (arugula goat cheese strawberry blubeberry salad, anyone?) and the first time I had eaten out in a month or two. And we went to see "be kind rewind" which was mildly disappointing BUT it was great to get out and see a movie.
-played an orchestra concert and the cellos sounded DOPE!! One of the audience members said that the cellos sounded strongest of all the sections in the orchestra and whenever we entered it was like a ROAR. Mmm!! Satisfaction!
-Sunday night had a good hang with one of my best friends here in ATL. She actually told me that watching me DB is helping her *start* a relationship in a healthy way. Wo??!! Then we made curried mushroom squash soup and potato-chard fritatta together.
-Had a good therapy session today. Pretty gentle, but I learned that passive aggressive is whenever you express your feelings indirectly because you don't feel like you can express them directly. Wow. Turns out I do that all the time! And I thought I was SO direct!! My therapist pointed out that what we are doing now is *exploring* my emotions instead of organizing them and then trying to feel something different. And he said that even though we haven't talked about B in a while, it is all going to help me with that too. Nice.
1. I read "The Little Prince" for the first time. I bought it with the intention of giving it to B as a "low pressure reaching out gift" when I come out of the dark. He told me many months before the bomb that he borrowed it from someone and it made a big impact. I thought it would be nice for him to have his own copy and also that would be a good way to show him that I really care and that I know things about him that probably no one else would know. It seemed perfect. But I thought I should read it through before giving it to him.
But then I actually read it, and it made me really sad. It seems like very obvious pro-relationship propoganda! B = little prince. Me = cranky flower/rose. "Come back to your planet! The rose (obvious parallel for the relationship) is important because of the time you spent taking care of it!" So now I am uncertain. What are your thoughts, guys? Maybe I will just save it for the bottom of the reaching-out list.... maybe AFTER I give him the vibrating head massager!!
2. Question: When you pray for your WA, what do you pray for? I pray for B and me to move towards each other with open arms and open hearts. I do positive visualization of both of us having a loving, growing new relationship, living in the same city, and realizing our own personal dreams.
But when I try to pray for B individually, I am not sure what to ask for. I think I have a stupid complex that the more confused and sad he is, the more he will realize that he misses me. But maybe the opposite is true, and the happier he is and the more the pieces of his life fall into place, the more he will realize I am an important piece that is missing. What do you guys do?
Ali! I love this, "spreading muffins around the world"! Maybe that should be the title of my next thread! Who knew muffins could become a symbol of resilience, joy, and self-sufficiency in the face of crisis??! Can you give me a curry recipe? I am trying to diversify my food supply (maybe you have noticed)
Jeff! Oh my gosh! Is this your first visit? I am so honored!! Did the smell of muffins baking waft over from my thread to yours?? Four batches!! Is that one dozen for each son? Maybe if you are lucky there will be a crumb of two left over for you and W!
Beth, you think I am GAL expert?? seriously?? thank you SO MUCH!!!
(((((T))))) I think it might be the first time I've posted to your thread! You don't need to be honored, but I appreciate the thought!
I think four batches might be about right, S19 will be here this weekend before his deployment to Djibouti, Africa, and we are having a couple of families (who also have teen boys) over Sunday afternoon. I made lasagna for the occasion yesterday, but more food can't be a mistake with them coming over. Hmmmm, maybe six batches?
It sounds like you had a great weekend! keep it up!
Question: When you pray for your WA, what do you pray for?
Disclaimer: I wasn't very religious before my H and I separated. I was raised Catholic, but pretty much stopped going to church when I went away to college 11 years ago.
But, as they always say, when in the darkest part of your life, who do you turn to? So, yes, I started praying..and it was a different type of praying then I would normally do.
I started praying for H that he would find himself. I truly believe that my H has issues that he needs help with and that being w/ his OW isn't going to be the answer to those problems.
I then prayed for myself. Prayed for help through this time.
And it worked.
H & I, both 32, together since 18. *M 7/03, A since 9/06. Bomb 7/07, H ended it w/ OW 9/08 * Agreed to D 6/09...very hard *D 8/10 * At peace, have become great friends w/ X-H and his new GF
D2 and I went in search of muffins at the grocery store this evening and I honestly chuckled for a minute and thought of you. I'm still buying the ready made ones but I just might consider baking some in the near future. I'm not very handy in the kitchen but I LOVE the smell of something baking in the oven!
Hope you are doing well since I see you haven't posted on your thread for a couple of days now.
I am so glad that you chuckled in the muffin aisle!! Muffins other people bake are so delicious too There is a special market here in atlanta that has killer strawberry muffins, esp toasted with a little butter. And my favorite bakery has awesome carrot muffins.. mmmm.... completely different, but so super delicious!! Seriously though, try making some muffins when you're in the mood. It is so easy and gratifying and you feel SO accomplished! I think your daughter would LOVE it too! She could be the official "scooper" and put them in the muffin tray! Do you have any baking memories with your parents? I have strong memories of making meatballs, and pasta from scratch...!!
