What brandnewday says, BT. For example, today is a 'down' day for me...and our sitch is a good one! I totally got the sense she would rather not talk to me today.
We all just have to be patient, I guess. Tomorrow's a new day, and we start all over again
Me: 54 Her: 50 and sexy as hell M: 32yrs T: 34yrs Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection" Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire" She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08! Everything's GREAT!
Thanks man! Today was the best day I have had since December 5th. I just feel like either way all is going to be OK. Also looking forwarcd to going to Colorado next week with Buddies.
Sorry you are having a bad day, I think your wife had a bad day at work right?
Hang in there Mink you are doing so well. I am sure much better then I will for a long time. What a ride.
Tonight was OK, I got home late from work and missed dinner w the Family but we all went to S12 BB game. had fun.
Cheers man! Talk to ya tomorrow and thanks for all your support.
I am having another good day. W is really noticing my efforts to detach and she is very uncomfortable about it. She has seen major changes in me (not in what I say but what i do) and for the first time is seeing/noticing detaching and PMA. She is uncomfortable with this. I know she is in great pain and I really wish I could help her with this. I know I can not. She is going away this weekend and I can not wait, yet I am dieing to kiss her and hug her and take all her troubles away. Dream on.
Had a great call with my coach Jody today. Her message was to detach as much as possible. She said W is beating me up because she does not want to give up yet and she is trying not to validate my positive changes. She is not done with me yet for these reasons. She said I need to add some humor and not listen to the same old stuff over and over. She wants me to find my passion and move into the friendship stage. She said not to spend time alone yet because that is when she beats on me and to empower her. Tell her she is great at the things she does and so on. She really wants me r=to reduce contact with her until the anger is gone. She also said she does not like all the changes that i have made because it does not validate her actions and drive to S or D. She also said this is not a good stage for MC.
Detaching is hard. I am doing really well with it thought. W knows something is up but can not quite figure it out. I am PMAing all over and basically avoiding her as much as I can until the anger is gone. Hopefully soon. She seems kinda moapy around the house. Really trying to bother me by being on the phone, i have decisided that will not bother me anymore. She is seeing new MC today. Coach said now is not time for MC because she is still so angree. I feel good today but something is up with her. Maybe something to do with L or trip this weekend. God bless her and may she get better soon
You guys have such hard sitch's. Sometimes maybe I should think I am lucky where I am. I just want so much more it hurts. This detaching is really hard. I went out to dinner w/ friends and GALed and then went to S12 Basketball game. I purposely didn't go anywhere near her. She was texting the whole time. She thinks she is so important it is unreal. She texts more than a 16 year old, o'yeah, she is a sixteen year old. All I could think the whole time was the Babe I married is now gone, someone has taken her. She will probabily never be back. I feel so bad for my kids.
BTW: when she came back from the MC she said she told the MC that she was not very optimistic about us. That's a far cry from a month ago when she told the bad MC that she wanted out of this marrage. I think the Detaching and GALing may be having an effect on her. I am staying clear of her and her pain and hopeing it will subside. I wish I could help her through this but she needs to help herself. I feel so bad for her.
Where did my little girl go? Maybe it is time for me to accept that she is gone and not coming back but I can not just give up.
Quite night. I am trying hard to detach but it is tough going. I am starting to feel like I don't even like her anymore. i will porbabily love her again in the morning. Good night.
