Alison, I know you want your son to make up his own mind on the breakfast thing but I think your son was wanting you to be more open with him as to how you really felt from what he replied.
I agree with naej on this one, Alison. I, for one, was always expecting this of my H, but he never got it. I don't know if it's a male thing or just him, but if I left it up to him, he would assume that meant carte blanche for him to do whatever he wanted.
I think your son needs some direction from you, particularly as he asked you more than once. He does not want to let you down, and you KNOW that you will be hurt if he spends all day w/ his dad, so why not make that clear? I see that as being fair - laying your cards on the table.
I have been struggling with this issue also b/c D11 went to see the Spice Girls w/ H's gf (no, I was not informed beforehand). Since it didn't directly affect me (his time with them), I had to appear happy that she had fun, although inside I was seething! I think it's important to let them know how you feel about things, unless you know it's really about you and not fair to them (i.e. unfair pressure).
I don't know if this makes sense, but I hope it does!
Nicola
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