The thing is, I'm really not all that angry. I'd like some legal counsel b/c after a convo I plan on starting, I suspect he'll cut and run. I'm just looking for info. I will not be the one to file.
I'm initiating a convo with H regarding what was said to D's and how surprised I was that it was put in the context of a move to expedite his commute as opposed to a marital seperation. I know this isn't exactly DBing and that it will probably force his hand some, but I am not a doormat. I will not take just anything form him b/c I want so much for my D's to grow up knowing their Dad. I do want that, it is something I've struggled with. I've come to the conclusion that while it's really important for them to have a good R with him, that's up to him. He'll either cowboy up or not. I am no longer willing to watch him do "whatever" in the interest of our D's. If he tells me he's changed his mind about our marital status, I'm willing to see how thing go for awhile. If he has not and is using the "commute" as an act of cowardice instead of talking to our D's and making it "real". Then I have to pony up and do it myself. I will give him the opportunity to be there, if he opts not to be I'll still have that convo with them. I won't blame him, but I won't rescue him either. Since he's moving Saturday, I'd like to have that convo this week while he's still here to answer their questions. This man is clearly done with me. I suspect he'll use the move to "slink" out. I have to be the kind of woman I can be proud of and show my D's my worth so that they'll be able to see their own.
