here comes the sun.,...It will be alright

[NikB]

H - just a quick question for you, are you 100% clear on what it is that you want?

I'm just asking because going from "Let's discuss a D" to "We need to separate" to "You're free to leave if you want" (with no further discussion) to "let's go to Retro once you find a job" - it seems like you're kinda all over the place. The only thing I see that's consistent is that you want some kind of change, which makes sense, but are you clear on what it is that you want to be different?

Do you want to know what's going on in her mind to get an idea of where she stands on the M?

Do you want her cooperation in repairing your M?

Do you want the limbo to be over with ASAP? (even if that means moving towards sep/D)

Let's pretend it is going to be a very easy conversation and she will go along with whatever it is that you ask for. What exactly do you want?