Saffie is 100% right -- I over-reacted in my response. I thought better of it after I posted it, realizing that it does not convey the point I need to make well. I realize that you would not be here in these forums asking these questions unless you were open-minded enough to really consider salvaging your M. At the same time, I don't believe you really want to make it your policy to deny someone your honesty and to betray their trust, except merely as a point of rhetorical conjecture.
Thanks, Saffie, for getting me to correct my heavy-handed response. I guess I am still quite a bit sensitive to the mere suggestion of the dismissal of trust and honesty by a spouse.