I understand completely where you are coming from, but don't you think this guy has come to the boards to be honest here and explore whether or not he should be recommitting to his M and his family.
To say he can't be loving etc and be honest with his wife I can understand at the moment. He can't do that because he doesn't know what he wants it seems.
Up, do you think your W would want to remain in a loveless M? She is asking for affection etc... I don't think she would be asking for that if she just wanted to keep the family together for religious reasons. I honestly think you are selling your W short here. You need to give this time and thought and see if these feelings can grow back.
Nocodes is absolutely right that it is hard to recapture the feelings for your W whilst still involved or attached to OP; even if they are on the back burner rather than full on with you.
It sounds as though you think for your childrens' sakes you should give your M a fair shot so even if you walk away at the end of the day, you will know you did all you could. To do that you will have to be honest and sincere and all I think you can do is tell your W you are working on things and you HOPE those feelings of love etc will reappear. Retro is meant to be very good at rekindling those feelings if they are there. Why not give it a go - what have you got to lose?
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
