Looking back I can see where I messed up. AND I think that is what makes me kinda sad because I have changed so much so much!!
PLEASE do not fall into this trap! When I asked the question, I meant, "looking back, were YOU honestly fulfilled?" I think that in our crying over what we have lost, we conveniently forget that "oh yeah, it really wasn't so great." I am sad that your first response is to talk about how YOU messed up.
Did you happen to watch Dr. Phil today? It is the engagement series (Dr. Phil house). Watch it if you can (we have replays of today's show at night here...don't know if you do, too). He said some interesting things about what we are willing to sacrifice to be in a relationship, when really we should be wanting the best for ourselves.
So, let's keep this thread going. Mission: Make Cagzmom's realize her self worth.
My hero right now is one of my close friends. I say she is my hero because after a not so great marriage ended, she spent a long time doing some serious self-evaluation. She wanted to figure out why she didn't feel as if she deserved more that what her H gave her all those years (20+). It was not easy for her... this went against everything she had been thinking for the longest time. She took time and journaled every single morning. At one point, she journaled about her "perfect" mate.
Of course you know that she did in fact find him. And he is treating her like gold. Every once in awhile she needs to remind herself that she deserves this. Of course, she has been honest with him about her fears. He understands. And THAT, my dear, is a real relationship, with a real man.
