I suppose you have casually dismissed the certain possibility of your endorphin-based addiction to the OP as the reason you feel the way you do? Please, don't kid a kidder here -- we've all felt that heady "in-love" euphoria and we all know how intoxicating it is. We well remember how this "being in love" clouds your view of the object of that affection, even when we deny it. This is called "limmerance" and it always fades away at some point in the R, usually between six months and two years.
When, not if, that euphoria fades will the real test of your "love" begin and whether you still find that OP to be "perfect". Until then, it is grossly unfair to judge your S or your R with them in that light. Observe my sig below -- I strongly believe that real and lasting love is a decision.
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Oh yeah, and S above all wants honesty and sincerity. At present, she can't get this, and also get the above affection. Just ain't in me.
How old are you? I have to ask. If this is truly how you feel -- and not some shallow rationalization to continue with your own selfishness -- then not only should you no longer be in a M or R with your current W, but you shouldn't have any R with your AP either. In fact, I don't think you should have a R with your children either. JMNSHO.
Sorry to be blunt, UP, but if you don't understand the need for honesty and sincerity in a M, then maybe you need a time-out from any and all relationships.
