I just got back from having lunch with W (at a Thai restaurant). We talked mostly about the kids. She mentioned that a guy and gal we used to know who had opened a restaurant together are now lovers. The guy is married. Pretty weird hearing someone who is in an A herself talking about someone elses A. I told her that from reading in the "Just Friends" book that A's are quite common in marriages.
I asked W if she was still planning on moving to an apartment. She said she would like to but that she is worried about the expense. I told her that it might be better for her to just stay where she is at and come to her own conclusion in time. I told her that I am ok waiting for a long time. She was concerned about me and wanted me to get out and do other things in the meantime. I think she was suggesting that I find a friend that is a girl to do stuff with. I told her that I doubt that I could find any ladies that would want to do stuff with me just as a friend because I would be honest with them when we met and let them know that I am a married man that is having trouble in his marriage and hope to have it work out.
W asked me what I was getting for her BD. I told her I dont know, but that I tried to get something on behalf of the kids last night. She also commented about the nice shirt I was wearing and thought that it did not match my pants. She thinks I should be wearing blue jeans.
As she was driving me back to my office, I told her that I was optimistic that our M will be saved, but that I dont want her to be pushed at all on any timeline. When I was dropped off, she thanked me for lunch and we bumped heads together (she did not want to kiss in public). I told her that she needs to pay off her lawyer soon before there are late fees and she agreed.
I now wish I had not brought up our situation in the conversation, but I cant go back and undo it. It was just one of those nervous moments when you dont have anything else to talk about.
