Wow - grasshopper doesn't just have a thread, he's got a blanket! I'll start in on the reading ...
Just an update. W made a big deal about wanting to fix dinner last night. I've been doing everything - cooking, cleaning, laundry - since she moved back in. No big deal since that has been one of my changes and I've grown to kind of like it, but I think it freaks her out a little. Anyway, she calls around the time I usually start making dinner and says she really wanted to make it and to wait, unless I was hungry. I told her I'd wait. An hour later (it takes 20 mins. for her to get home) I went and started dinner. She came in all flustered and profusely apologizing. Where was she - with OM? I'm pretty sure that's the case but decided not to go there. Anyway, evening was okay but distant and she acted all jittery.
Got up this morning and felt sullen and unsure of why I'm putting up with her. Sat up in bed and thought about getting up when she reaches out and starts stroking my arm. First time that's happened! I liked it, but felt ridiculous that I was responding this way to a single touch - talk about grasping for straws. Later I hugged her and she leaned into me a little. Another straw!
What did Heartbroken write in her thread - 16 mos.? Well, I'm a quarter of the way there!