Stop trying to explain why you were the "bad wife" when you were depressed.
Stop trying to convince him to go to C with you.
This is chasing behavior...it only pushes him away further.
--Theoden
Thanks for the advice! I will try to avoid 100% of the chasing behaviors, and follow your advice. I don't know what is inside of me that makes me do stuff like that! So frustrating! I will be doing good at db'ing and being strong and then I will have a weak moment and blow it like that. I think I will print out your post today and save it as a daily reminder to myself!!! Karen43