Cat, You're done. Good for you for making that decision. You did fight the fight. Big time. And now you are at a point where you are ready to be done with this mess.
As difficult as this is, I guarantee you... you will gain a tremendous amount of peace from this decision. Yes, there will be sad moments. And that's okay. But at least you won't be worrying all the time.
You are a wonderful woman. You are a wonderful mother. You are a wonderful wife. And one day (when you are ready), you will find yourself in a healthy and loving R.
Your H is messed up. And it's not up to you to fix him. You are walking away with your head held high.
I am here for you. You will be good. I promise you.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
Well one thing is for sure. If anyone knows how to put effort into making a relationship work it's you. Some day there is going to a guy who will feel like he won the jackpot when he finds you.
But for now just take care of you and focus on further healing and growth. Eventually you are going to feel very free and "whole" once the pain subsides. It is going to be a huge relief.... life will be good.
Take care of YOU first and foremost, do what you need to insure that your daughter's best interest both emotionally and finanically. Stay logical. And, when in D make choises that are best for YOU and your child.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
thank you girls)))))))))) we are trying to work things out and amazingly enough he is thinking of kids and wants to make sure we are well taken care of.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
thanks Ellie, he is insisting also on signing something that in some way says we are agreing on certain things, I think he is very very scared that I"m going to flip and unleash hell, but better safe than sorry!
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Don't sign anything that isn't in YOUR favor! Get some legal advice, find out what would be the "norm" in your state; but if he's feeling generous, take advantage of it. Think of it as saving his money from his MLC.
Right, Cat, Don't let emotion get the best of you now. Think things threw, take time, don't sign anything right away, sleep on it, rely on the advice of someone with a good head, clear vision and yours and the kids best interests at heart.
M45, W45,S15, D10, Bomb 10/3/06, Moved back in 11/6/06, finally ILY 9/07 last thread
hey stranger! i've started a new thread (well, a good-bye one) since i no longer be piecing nor foresee I ever will. I"m reading lots and making sure I get the right info, I got 2 people helping w/the details, thank heavens for that.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
