mako-man....this will not be easy, but, as long as she shows interest in both helping herself AND the M...well..it comes down to patience, time.....The key challenge will be if she can maintain the course and do the work necessary for HERSELF. I'm sure you can now more clearly see that the issues are BEYOND your M. If she can do the work to heal herself, I believe, the M will follow. Repairing the M tho'..if she wants it...will probably occur as s process of her healing herself. Sadly, many people such as your W..my W...don't stay on the meds. I pray that she will and realize what a solid man she has.

In the interim..take care of yourself. I have two little ones...I read your 'schedule' as you posted...and I know how important our time is to them..but...find a moment to do something you like....treat yourself to an Armani Exchange shirt...or a bottle of Antidote cologne....or just a quiet fishing rod by the lake. FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;