i ended the A in November for the second time, but feel like life without AP is life not having oxygen - sorry if that hurts the BPs. AP was a co-worker (I quit my job in attempts at reconciiation), and is also married (but no kids).
I am in fact sseing a counselor, but haven't gotten to the discussion of "when is enough enough" - I feel like W and I are in the "after the last resort" phase - I've moved out, and our communication is perfunctory- she (W) is doing a good job finally of not making my life a living hell with constant intrusion and interrogation. Meanwhile, I am torn between the well-being of the children (guilt and heartbreak if I leave) versus making myself miserable with a person I simply do not love. We hadn't knwn each other long before getting married quickly due to pregnancy. We never got to know each other as a couple first. I am seriously doubting we would have lasted as a couple sans children. And then BAM along comes AP who opens a new light - I was 10+yrs faithful until she came along. It wasn't about the sex, it was about the emotional connection, respect, honesty, and understanding we shared (granted, as partners in crime, but nonetheless real).
