unfortunately, i did not write such letters pre-affair. my demeanor was that of a hard-working unromantic partner, who cowered and appeased. my W has always been very supportive, if not a little dissapointed in my lack of affection and gestures of love. the A brought out a poet. W and I tried to reconcile starting in November, but I am not the same person with W as I am with AP - that much is very clear to me. I hear you on the rewriting of marital history bit, but I'm unable to convince myself otherwise than that my joy has been the kids, and not W. I simply cannot muster the same feelings in order to be able to express Love and Caring for W that I can for AP - the A has been going on for 10 months, and I've called it off twice only to crawl back for oxygen.
