Addie, Thank you for you advice! It's been a couple of months since I've been able to be nosy because he figured out I was going to his room & he has put a lock on it. He has been gone from the house for about a month now so the only thing I can do is check his credit cards on line & I did check the airlines & found out he was going to see this OW leaving tonight. I haven't spoken to him about the affair in a long time, he realized I discovered it, he told me then he wasn't proud of some of his decisions but he never apologized for cheating on me, he only said he was sorry that I was hurting. We haven't really talked since he cussed me out in January (I have that on tape & my lawyer has it now) he was mad because we were going to mediation & it is going to cost so much money. I've been nice to him when he comes in, we mostly say hi & that is it. The last couple of times he came we didn't even speak because he didn't ever come into the room I was in & I didn't make an effort to see him either. I've order the book & hopefully it will be here in a few days. Again, thank you so much for your support & it's good to know someone else is going through this also. I'm not glad you are going through it but at least we can correspond. I hope things will work out for you also.
