I think Kerry is right Tom, you did fine. Don't feed into her roller coaster. You have your own to deal with behind closed doors. It sounds as if she is trying to come to grips on things. I think that the birthday party was an excuse just to try to talk. I could be wrong, but that is how i see it. Especially since she stayed on only 2 minutes.
Try and keep your head up and stay busy.
Ken Me: 37 Her: 38 Son: 8 (spina bifida) Son:2 M 6/24/1994 S 1/21/2008 Original Sitch