Thanks for complemnting on my thread. You are doing the right thing by acting "as is" when you talk to her. She is most likely in an emotional turmoil for what she is doing. You can have no idea what is happening emotionally between her and OM. For all you know, they could have just had their first fight. It could be that the first fight they have ends it right there. Too many possibilities to think about and it will just drive you crazy.
It is so tough finding the time to do things when you have to take care of the house, kids and financials. Fortunately for you, your kids are at the age where they can help out quite a bit.
