Sure, I wish W could find a way to be happy, without having to tear things down around her on the way out. Why do they feel the need to lash out and hurt us when all they want to do is leave?
That's totally normal. They do it to make leaving easier. If they can make you angry it's easier to divorce because "the marriage was rotten anyway and we fought all the time." Just ignore it. When she acts snarky and blames you just say, "Yes, I understand what you are saying," or even, "I'm sorry it came across that way..."
Do not let her get you angry or coner you into any fights.
Yes, of course she wants full custody! You have to expect her to want whatever will make her situation easier regardless of where it leaves you. Mentally she's in a very selfish place right now (that's very normal too when someone wants a D). Just smile, stay calm and say, "I'll have to speak with my lawyer..." and then let it go. Ignore her as much as possible. You don't have to fight over things or agree over anything right now. Tell her you'll "think about" whatever she brings up or will need to discuss it with your lawyer.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
