Nik say's some very wise things. Think hard about what you are going to say and how it can possibly be misread by your W. You need to be clear. I am pretty sure from what you have said she is anticipating another talk about your R but I think she would be blown away by finding out you are feeling like you want to walk. I am not saying not to tell her that, but if you still would prefer your M to work out - you also need to tell her that too. Maybe it is time for a cards on the table talk where you tell her you can no longer fight a one man battle to save the M - that it needs two of you. I don't know - just a thought.
At the end of the day husband, she isn't free to go because of the financial constraints as she isn't working. Perhaps you should be asking her what her intentions are when she gets a job. Perhaps you should tell her that you need to plan for the future WHATEVER that may hold and so you want to know what her intentions are. That you need to know if she intends to stay or leave.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
