My guess would have to be if you need to ask then you are not feeling it. Look up remorse in a dictionary -
remorse - a strong feeling of guilt remorseless-unkind and showing no pity or regret; continuing in an unpleasant and persistent way.
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what does it mean to be committed?
A committed person is someone who has strong, (generally positive), beliefs in something - ie a committed christian.
Are you still actively having an A? Does your S know if you are?
Tell us a bit more about your sitch.
You are certainly not the only unfaithful spouse on these boards - the sort of responses you get will generally depend on how you aproach the boards - remember, there are a lot of people on here who have been badly hurt by their S's cheating. Tell us why you cheated - what are/were you not getting at home that the A has given you? Is your OW someone you would want as a long term partner?
I spent quite a long time in my M not being sure if I wanted it or not, (I think in some sort of transitional or ML crisis). It drove my H away and he had an A; I had come to the conclusion, (slowly), that I wanted my M and my H, but finding out that I had almost lost that sure polarised my feelings. Perhaps if your W rejected you it might make you realise what you want.
Hope that helps
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
