addie & sgctxok! Thank you so much for responding & your wonderful support & advice. I will definitely get the book & follow your advice. I'm so worried about mediation on Monday because I'm sure my lawyer will use whatever it takes to get the house, insurance & alimony. He didn't tell me about th OW I found out by being nosy & I've become a pretty good PI in the process, I had to know what was going on. But I still love my husband & can't imagine life without him. In your experiences will I be able to forgive & forget this infidelity?
