Gman might have a point about counselor or just someone else to express their thoughts with other than the 2 of you it may help, I know it helped my daughter through her depression last year, and unfortunately both my kids will probably need to go back bc of this mess.
Vulcan mind meld, thats great I wish I could do that or maybe not don't really want to know anything about OW. Anyway I knew sooner or later I find a trekkie here.
Hugs,
gsr1
M 45 H 42
D 26 D 18 S 16
Married 19 years Together 24 years ILYBNILWY 1/7/08 OW 10/11/07 ended affair 3/14/08 came home 3/14/08 last contacted ow 3/17/08 4/19/08 trying to piece marriage back.
