Thanks GF,

I know, give me 1000 lashes, I just don't want to lose my H. But how do you compete with something fresh and new? MLC is killing me. You and Puppy are so right, I know what I have to do, its just doing it. I know I have to set boundaries for my own sanity. He became so detached by the time he finally told me about A, but he's changed in this last few weeks it's like he sees what he is actually giving up but yet still wants what he wants, so yes I know I need to stop letting him do this to me. I had told him before I was not willing to share and he understood, but chose her, but under the circumstances can't just up and leave, financially and for the fact the kids have no idea whats going on right now and would be shocked and destroyed by actions of their dad.

Thanks for setting me straight, probably should read that book it may help me see things more clearly.

Thanks GF,
gsr1

Last edited by gsr1; 02/26/08 02:42 PM.

M 45
H 42

D 26
D 18
S 16

Married 19 years
Together 24 years
ILYBNILWY 1/7/08
OW 10/11/07
ended affair 3/14/08
came home 3/14/08
last contacted ow 3/17/08
4/19/08 trying to piece marriage back.