It sounds like staying out of her way is a good idea.
You need to work on getting stronger and more confident around her. Don't let her think that you 'need' her...even though you are hurting like crazy right now.
Look at it this way - it can't make things any worse than they already are.
Me: 54 Her: 50 and sexy as hell M: 32yrs T: 34yrs Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection" Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire" She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08! Everything's GREAT!