I don't often come to this site I lurk occasionally and have asked some questions and occasionally responded on someones thread.
I can honestly say reading and learning from both men and women here has changed my life and M for the better.
I tend to agree that if the W or H isn't interested in improving their SL it may not mean success....it may improve the relationship and should there ever be a D mean a better understanding of how NOT to do things.
What I would like to tell the men that have LD wives in particular is that their struggles opened MY eyes to how my own H probably felt for a lot of our M. I did want more and better sex too....just didn't have the confidence to ask. Crazy...that we both wanted the same thing yet neither of us ever really spoke about it or how to go about getting there.
Without reading or understanding that there is that emotional connection for their wife through sex I would have remained clueless.
I know it sounds impossible that a woman may not understand this...but when you have been brought up being told men only want one thing...men will have sex with anyone...and lets be honest men can and do have sex without ANY emotional commitment or love for another woman. Otherwise prostitutes would go out of business.
So for ME to then not understand that sex within the M IS SO important isn't actually that hard to understand.
As for my own desire or lack of it....hmmm thats another thing entirely and where the woman allowing herself to actually BE sexy and not have to be a "good girl" is something else I really only just understand now.
Before coming here and lurking and reading I think there would be zero sex life in my M...I doubt if we would have D but with all your stories and advice to one another I have hope of enjoying a good SL for many years.
