Fish - Piecing

[whatisis]

Absolutely, fish! No M can be healthy unless both parties have their own life and interests as well as ones they share. I know I got caught up in living my W's life and supporting her decisions and therefore forgetting about my own needs. What all this crap has done for me is to bring me back to myself! I am a far fuller, more interesting person than the Saint who existed previously. Sainthood was boring and, guess what, W didn't appreciate it anyway, she just felt indebted to me but had nothing to give back. Not a nice place for either of us to be. So "LONG LIVE GAL"

[fish]

Getting an early start, busy day today.

Called lawyer yesterday and told him to put divorce on hold. Having dinner with W tonight.

Any advice? Really want to take this to the next level, but I know that is not the right move.

Fish

[fish]

Getting an early start, busy day today.

Called lawyer yesterday and told him to put divorce on hold. Having dinner with W tonight.

Any advice? Really want to take this to the next level, but I know that is not the right move.

Fish

[cw68]

Just sit tight and continue to listen and don't push. Simply enjoy the date with your girlfriend.

OK, so GAL works when you didn't have one, but what would you recommend to those of us who did plenty before, it was just that we did all our stuff apart? (Easier with the babysitter thing at first, then he just avoided me.)

[klm]

Don't push. Move at her pace. Patience. Congratulations on putting the D on hold.

[fish]

Update -- Can always use advice.

Piecing is damn hard.

W and I have not spoken since she called me on Sunday to thank me for a great weekend. I figured that I should give things thing some air since we saw each other on Th, Sat & Sun and spent the night in bed together on Sat (her idea). No sex.

W texted my yesterday saying that she was exhausted and asked if we could move dinner from last night to tonight. I texted back "No problem." She then texted back and asked if we could meet at a specific place at 7PM. I texted back "sure." Playing it very cool.

At that point, I called a few friends and went out to a VERY nice dinner. During dinner my cell rang and it was W, I did not pick up. She put D on phone to say hello. I did not call back.
Again, playing it very cool.

I am a bit pissed of because W did not call me as promised to "make our plans for the week." She also has not confirmed our 3 day weekend together.

But I am DBing my ass of and not asking for anything. Playing it cool and letting her drive the bus. I will be myself at dinner tonight have a great time and just feel things out.

Any advice?

Fish

[Broken Tree]

Play it cool man. You are doing great.

Time takes time.

Leave Rich the salesman at home.

Listen, listen, listen!

Don't rush. you are doing so great.

You should have called me for dinner man!

What don't you call the Puruvian chick just for contrast?

[fish]

Played it cool and it worked.

W texted me this morning to let me know that she called her lawyer to tell him to put divorce on hold and invited me out to a very nice place for dinner tonight.

I texted back.."sure"

Playing it cool...

[cw68]

That is spectacular news. Actions speak louder than words, so whenever you feel that she's pulling back, remember what she just did. It's huge!

[minkerman]

I keep remembering what forum member LoginName told me:

My W had left. She was moving on, probably without me. Now, she has had to completely turn her emotional ship around to start heading back home. Therefore, she is very likely working harder at this than I am. I have always been on the same path, so it's easier for me.

I can't lose sight of that.