Thanks for this. It's good to hear that you also think it may be significant for her to have called. I know the MC is an important piece...though she has been abundantly clear that it is not for reconciliation, but "exploration". Okay, fair enough. I suppose that is a good place to start. Feeling a bit anxious and then more grounded tonight...W. emailed me re: logistics of getting to MC tomorrow--sometimes she is extremely brief in her emails which comes across as curt. Anyway, I'm picking her up. Weird thing is, we haven't talked about R. or the MC since the first session 2 weeks ago. This seems weird to me, but I'm not going to push it. I figure questions and exploration about stuff like this at this stage are far better coming from the MC rather than me to her.
My focal points for tomorrow: 1. Breathe 2. Repeat #1 3. Listen...A LOT. 4. Let smarty pants questions come from the MC; keep my own mouth shut when feeling a desire to "make a point" or some other vainly self-serving business 5. Know a few of my hot buttons and anesthetize them a little bit 6. Be open to showing emotion and sharing, but also being strong for myself 7. Hope to come away with another positive experience together and maybe have learned a little more about W's experience and what is going on for her 8. Did I mention breathe?
I've got to catch up on your thread, Ali. I'll pop over there tomorrow and check in with you. I know the whole weekend get together or not thing is a bit of a trek to go through, isn't it? Seems like there are a lot of similarities in our experiences!
Well, I'd better get to bed. Big day tomorrow. Wish me luck, guys!! : )
