Thanks guys. Slow and steady wins the race, right?? I think I have learned over the weekend that this is really nothing to do with me, I mean it is my M but my H's problems are his. He has to face them and deal with them on his own time schedule. Just need to let him know I am here for him and let him do his thing. No pressure. No expectations. Let's hope I can keep remembering that for more than 8 hours at a time!