No, not with the xw2 now. Seems like it was years ago, and actually it was coming up on 5 years now. Xw2 had 5 major life stressors hit her within a 6 month time span that sent her over the edge. She went into the typical as described here MLC land. It took me a long time to understand and comprehend, but thanks to several of her own docs that sort of "bent the rules" they tried to fill me in: "She's not playing with a full deck of cards." "There's nobody home to talk to." are some of my favorite quotes from the docs. Took a long time for it to register with me. U know the "better or for worse" that we promised, well I tried for a long time to keep that promise, but kept being tossed out. Even my x1 ("What are you nuts, that's the best thing you'll ever have in your life and your going to walk out? Are you nuts?" querry to now x2) and my x2's best friends were telling her she had better get it together. So now, years later, my x1 and me laugh a bit about it,as x1s question to x2 about being "nuts" turned out to be true. And in between now and then, one of x2s former best friends moved in with me for awhile (strictley plutonic) and that was a great help moving on with life. Haven't spoken to the x2 since the D day years ago, and from what I understand, just as well - it's not that I wouldn't mind a conversation, but unfortunately x2 cannot "connect the dots", so a conversation will not happen. I get mail and phone calls from businesses every now and then for her - at my address and my phone about recent transactions etc. as if we were still M. It's been five years since she left, 4 years since the D (she forced it, not me). Her feared by all high powered big $s divorce lawyer didn't get it at the time, despite my gentle nudges that x2 didn't need a D, but rather some help. The lawyer finally "got it" at the D, I think, at least that was the expression on her lawyers face at the time as in "WTF just happened here?". She threw in the towel on her practice a couple of months later and now works for the local domestic relations court trying to preserve marriages. I ran through five attorneys that wouldn't touch our sitch as they were afraid they would get a law suit for malpractice years later - "you two don't need a divorce - she needs some serious mental health assistance". So I had the pleasure of doing it Pro Se. And after a few years, I moved on, despite the occasional pieces of mail and phone calls from businesses as if we were still M, the latest just a few days ago. Oh and the occasional harrasement from her oldest son from her previous M (deceased) still leaving threatening phone messages about my life and property every now and then despite my not having a thing to do with any of them in four years (his latest last month). There are times when you may not see it at the moment, but years later you recognize someone much more powerful has actually been looking after us. I'm sure that was too much information, but you did ask.
