... everytime I try to come up with a sentance about what I want it involves something my H needs to do or not do. I know that I cannot change him or his decisions, but man have I tried!
You are absolutely correct! You cannot change H, so stop trying.
Goals that involve changes coming from your H are bigger goals. For now, I believe you ought to start with smaller, more realistic goals for yourself.
You already have a few.....
Originally Posted By: neecy22
I would like to be the mother to my daughter I have been in the past instead of the mess that I am today..... I would like to be able to turn on the radio - I haven't done that in at least a month because every song gets me worked up...... And as much as I appreciate the reponses on this board, I need to be able to get up and walk away.....
It's a good start!
Now what actions can you take to implement them?
Originally Posted By: neecy22
Other people that feel like I do, or at the very least can empathize.
We do empathize with you, neecy. We've all been in the same boat before. Some of us are still experiencing the crazy, raw emotions while others are further along in their sitches and have a (somewhat) better handle on themselves, though not one of us is perfect. It's never easy, but as time goes by, it does get easier.
So think about what you want. Set some boundaries, stick to them (no ifs, ands, or buts), detach, GAL, and work on YOU. Give yourself a very much needed break from H and all of his foolishness. Start focusing on you and making your way to those goals.
Now shoo! Get away from the computer!
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
