"The website for people who want a more loving relationship" I do have a wonderful M and nowhere near a D but your website is still very useful to me. It is not for DB alone. Sometimes I feel like a very greedy person who has a big cake and still want the last piece and sometimes think I should just forget about the missing intimate part for otherwise we are happy together. Luckily I now realize how important it is to continue to work on this issue.
You're on the right track. Maybe if more of us were "greedy" early on we'd save more marriages from low sex melt down. Also, what is a crisis for one person or relationship may be just fine for another. For example, if both partners are having intimacy difficulties even with sex 3 times a week maybe their nourishment needs are higher.
I'm a little afraid if we make some progress in our sex life, such as going from once a month to twice a month, that my wife will think that's good enough. Sure we doubled the frequency but that misses the point. I'd like to have sex every other day or every day and she'd like to have sex every couple months. Sex is one good thing that very few get too much of!
