Hello Michele,

Thank you for your reply. How do you manage to find the time? Yours is a great vocation, to be able to help so many couples and in doing so, help their children for the children will thrive when their parents have positive, loving relationships. You should feel proud and happy with yourself. Just your book alone has helped many, I'm sure. Speaking of which, I did send the online Chapter 1 to my H but I'm not sure if he has read it.

My H is not a verbal person when it comes to affairs of the heart. He always says that action counts louder than words which is why it hurts me even more when he does not express himself intimately. I think his difficulty in expressing himself stems from his poor relationship with his parents. His father was the strict authoritarion and he was never the favourite with his mother and she made it quite clear. So my continuous talking about this issue only made it worse for him.

Quoting Michele:
Well, one thing's for sure, talking to him about this situation isn't working. Asking for reassurances isn't working. I can certainly understand why you'd want to do both, but don't. as you suggest, come here and vent. And then focus on you. Decide what you need to do to boost your spirits. Then do it.
Michele, this is exactly what I am doing now and happy to say that some positive results are beggining to show. Thanks again. And BTW, I really like your header "The website for people who want a more loving relationship" I do have a wonderful M and nowhere near a D but your website is still very useful to me. It is not for DB alone. Sometimes I feel like a very greedy person who has a big cake and still want the last piece and sometimes think I should just forget about the missing intimate part for otherwise we are happy together. Luckily I now realize how important it is to continue to work on this issue.