Luvhubby, I am so glad you found your way here. I can tell that you are really working hard on yourself and your marriage. I give you lots of credit. All this, while your hormones are still running amuck! What a girl!!!
Marriages do go through an incredible transitional period after the birth of a child. In fact, did you know that research tells us that marital satisfaction often goes down with the birth of each child? Amazing. How is it possible that something so sweet, so wonderful, so miraculous as children can wreak havoc on marriage? Strange, isn't it?
Well, one thing's for sure, talking to him about this situation isn't working. Asking for reassurances isn't working. I can certainly understand why you'd want to do both, but don't. as you suggest, come here and vent. And then focus on you. Decide what you need to do to boost your spirits. Then do it.
I also wonder about the meds your husband is taking. It may just be that those meds are affecting his libido. Additionally, losing a parent is a gigantic loss. He might be depressed. Sex is often the last thing on someone's mind when they're down. His disinterest may or may not have anything to do with you. Don't press him about it right now. Just be loving and see what happens. Keep focused on what a great person you are and how lovable you really are even if he isn't being physically affectionate right now. His actions don't define you. Don't allow them to. Remember who you are. I can tell by your post that you are a sensitive, loving person. Don't forget it.
Would he read the book by any chance? You shouldn't pressure him, but what if you left it around the house "by accident?" Keep visiting. Michele
