Absolutely, fish! No M can be healthy unless both parties have their own life and interests as well as ones they share. I know I got caught up in living my W's life and supporting her decisions and therefore forgetting about my own needs. What all this crap has done for me is to bring me back to myself! I am a far fuller, more interesting person than the Saint who existed previously. Sainthood was boring and, guess what, W didn't appreciate it anyway, she just felt indebted to me but had nothing to give back. Not a nice place for either of us to be. So "LONG LIVE GAL"
