Loving a WAS isn't easy

[mymonkeybug]

Bryan-

I can imagine how painful being at church is for you when she acts as if you aren't even there. Continue your talks with the pastor as they seem to be helping you. I wish you all the best and know that you have it within you to continue to be strong and patient. Oh yes, it is the hardest thing we have ever had yo do but the potential payoff is so worth it.

I have had a few people tell me I am nuts to wait for H and how I should 'screw' him legally and all this other BS but you know what...they don't have the 19 year history with him that I do and I am the one that knows how hurt he must be in his mind and heart to have done what he did. I am surrounding myself with a choice few friends and family that support my stand for marriage restoration regardless of the time frame. All others I simply don't talk to about my M/R. You should do the same. Surround yourself with those that truly understand and can be 100% supportive.

Have a good week and yes, continue to use your FREE time on the weekends to improve you and do for you. I know how tough it is trust me as weekends are meant for family time for most families in the country. It will get easier in time I know.

Heather