By setting your goals. What do you want more of? (How about a SOLUTION JOURNAL?)
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Should I be agreeing to this family time? I really don't know what right anymore. Part of me thinks that if he's wanting some family time it's the right choice to be giving it to him.. but the other part of me thinks that he hasn't even begun to realize what life without me is going to be like. And that's important, isn't it?
Sure. Agree.
But then.....sometimes be busy. "Oh....honey, TONIGHT I can't make it. No big deal .... I'll join you guys next time." Be vague about your plans. "I just had a few things I had to do." Drop it. NO DETAILS. (Don't be boring)
Try it a few times. Then, do it more often. (again, actions, not too many words)
Don't set too tight of boundaries. It is a common theme around here. It isn't the thing to do. It can seriously backfire.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
