He stayed with night with me which was probably a big mistake on my part.
Not necessarily a mistake.... obviously he still feels connected and attracted to you. There is information on this website about sex with the "ex" or rather WAS. You might want to read further on this and see how it applies to you. I think the main thing with this is emotionally protecting yourself (and health wise too! Make sure you use protection), and not expecting anything from your H. He may be very confused and not know which way to go. Just try to be patient and try to be "his best friend." Always be the "best choise" even if he ultimately becomes too blind to see it.
Originally Posted By: Dayana
I feel like I am having a tug of war with her over him - it is so demeaning.
Demeaning to who? You are legally married to this guy!!! She's just spending time with someone else's husband. She's the one who comes across looking like cr@p. Not you. He is your husband. He is still part of your family... even if he's really confused right now (But keep in mind, nothing you say can change his confusion. He has to work though it on his own...).
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