Stella, read over the dog analogy - that's what I've been doing when I start to think about OW. If you have the book DR, in the infidelity chapter Michelle mentions a process called thought stopping where every time you find yourself thinking about OW picture a red stop sign - stop yourself from those thoughts and force yourself to think of something positive. It does take time for some of the pain to go away. There's not much you can do when H is living that far away. Try to sound pleasant and positive, validate his feelings. Maybe in time he will start to come around. Get involved in more activities to keep yourself busy.
What did H say when he called?
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"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
